In the hustle and bustle of the holiday season, it’s easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of shopping, planning, and balancing work as well. But there’s one tradition that has quietly crept into my life over the past 15 years, a tradition that I wholeheartedly welcome – Friendsgiving.
Lonely Thanksgivings Passed
I can’t pinpoint exactly where or when this tradition started, but I can say that it has become an integral part of my life. As someone who resides on a different continent from most of my family, Friendsgivings have been, in the past, my only opportunity to celebrate Thanksgiving. In fact, during my younger years, I’ve spent some Thanksgivings alone. I vividly recall heading to Popeye’s for a feast of fried chicken with a side of mashed potatoes, anything that would remotely resemble a Thanksgiving dinner. Those were the days when I was working on a military base, and I wasn’t the only one in that boat.
Present Day Feasts
Fast forward to today, I’m now a married man, and my wife and I spend our Thanksgiving with my in-laws. However, in our modern world, I’ve come to know many friends who either don’t have family nearby or are separated by great distances. Joining them for Friendsgiving has become a cherished tradition.
Now, when it comes to the food at Friendsgiving, I must admit that it can be hit or miss. You see, many of my friends don’t cook regularly outside of special occasions like this. But you know what? I’m more than willing to give them a pass because it’s not about the food; it’s about the company. And the company is top-notch!
In my circle of friends, we have a delightful mix of culinary prowess. Some are exceptional cooks, and they take immense pleasure in sharing their family recipes. And let me tell you, in our group, that often translates to a plethora of delectable baked desserts.
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Best of Both Worlds
I consider myself truly blessed to have the opportunity to partake in both Friendsgivings and traditional Thanksgiving celebrations with my in-laws. Friendsgiving has a distinct vibe – it’s casual, relaxed, and usually a bit more spirited. After a few hours of laughter and good conversation, we often part ways, not a single one of us melting into the couch watching “Planes, Trains, and Automobiles” – one of my all-time favorites.
In contrast, at Thanksgiving with my in-laws or with my family, the atmosphere is more formal. We gather around the table to share what we’re thankful for, say grace or offer a blessing, and then, yes, we watch “Planes, Trains, and Automobiles” again, a delightful tradition in itself.
My Own Tradition
But there’s one more tradition I uphold during Thanksgiving, one that is deeply personal to me. I take a moment to listen to “Alice’s Restaurant Massacree.” This song holds a special place in my heart as it reminds me of my Dad, a reminder of the bonds that tie generations together, even when miles apart.
In the end, whether it’s Friendsgiving or a traditional Thanksgiving, what matters most is the warmth of togetherness, the laughter, and the stories shared. It’s about cherishing the company of those we hold dear, whether they’re friends who’ve become family or the family who’ve always been there. This holiday season, I’m grateful for both, and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Have a happy Friendsgiving,
-Ryan
